Sunday, July 6, 2014

Sunday School

I love Sunday School.  There is always something there for me to learn.

Today, it was Lesson 23:  The Lord Be Between Thee and Me For Ever

I needed this lesson given the experiences of my previous post, regarding my previous Ward.

While I have not been perfect in what happened, and have some things to repent of, there is a lesson of being the meek and humble Latter-day Saint vs. being a doormat, even with other Latter-day Saints.

The fact that I am a widow and was not home taught for over a year should speak volumes.  I don't seek for vengeance against these people, they will need to answer to the Lord for what they have done, and the motivation for doing so.  That doesn't mean, though, that the Lord expects me to be a doormat and just simply "take it".

This goes back to David and Saul.

Did David support Saul?  Yes, he continued to fight battles under Saul, even while Saul was trying to have David killed in battle.

Did David lose his respect for Saul?  Yes, it got to the point where David had to go into hiding because Saul lost the respect and trust of both David and Saul's own son, Jonathan.

Did David try to take vengeance against Saul?  No.  David knew that to do so was a violation against God, as vengeance belongs to God.  David, however, also knew that Saul had already lost, in that David would inherit Saul's throne.  He had already been anointed to be the next king.

However, God also gave David the opportunity to confront Saul, which he did and cut the hem of Saul's robe, meaning that Saul had lost the battle.  David did not kill Saul - he was not to be seeking revenge, but David was not expected to be a doormat to Saul and allow Saul to kill him.  David was doing the Lord's will.


After some prayer, I have moved my membership back to Evergreen Ward.

I could never get home taught in the Ward I have left, and those who did show up gave no indication that they cared anything about my Mother.

Which is sad, given that this is the Ward my Mother lives in.  Since she's not a member of the Church, apparently she was not important to them.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Happy Anniversary

A happy and belated anniversary to the love of my eternal life.  We were sealed to one another 16 years ago on June 12, 1998.

The anniversary was on Thursday, and usually I'm a basket case.  This time, however, I put in a roughly 12 hour day at work, followed by taking care of Mom.  

She had cataract surgery #2 the week before and was still on eye drops.  The good news is, she is doing very, very well, and her vision is outstanding without the glasses.  She is also doing better with her walking, given that her vision of where she is going has improved.

Apart from work and Mom, that's about it.  Church?  I'm going to a different Ward than the one Decker and I attended; I'm praying to see if I need to stay there or go back to Evergreen.  It's going to have to be an entirely different post to explain what is going on.

My love to all of you.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Happy Mothers Day

Happy Mothers Day everyone, particularly the widowed mothers who could use an extra hug today!

To the caregivers out there, Happy Mothering Day to you.

For all of the above, be sure to do something today to pamper yourselves just a little.

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Losing A Significant Other - When You Are Not Married

I've seen this experience first-hand, my childhood sweetheart (who had a fiancĂ© and small baby) was killed by a drunk driver when we were both 18 years old.  Everyone was devastated, but determined to help her raise their son.

When a boyfriend dies, does the grief mean less?

What do you think?

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Communicating With Other Widows and Widowers

Do you like to communicate - if not vent - with others who have experienced many of the things you are encountering on your journey?

I just thought I'd ask that as I was told not too long ago that there is no need for a blog like this, that everything a widow or widower should need to talk about can be done within home teaching and visiting teaching.

I have my opinions, I'm interested in finding out what yours are.

Monday, September 30, 2013

From The Ashes

I don't know if you are like me, but a lot of the lessons the Lord gives me comes visually, and, in many cases, symbolically.

One of the things I remember when Decker passed away, as I sat in an exam room in my local hospital's emergency room next to my husband's lifeless body, I distinctly remember hearing the sound of several windows shattering.  I was in shock, however my mind was already trying to come to grips with the fact that the dreams and goals we shared as a couple were now gone.  At least for this lifetime.

What has taken years for me to find have been the doors and new windows created through this change.  New goals, new dreams, new discoveries.  I know it's not over for me yet, as there are still things I see and the Lord's hand guiding me through even more changes as my life turns to the direction He wants it to go, and knows it needs to go.

Sister Reeves' talk in the General Relief Society Meeting on September 28th, spoke to me.  The entire talk is wonderful, as was the entire meeting.  This talk, however, and this passage of the talk, felt like it was meant for me, and from what I've read on Facebook, I'm not alone.

I hope the Church doesn't mind my doing this, but I felt impressed to give a few added visuals to the passage of the talk where Sister Reeves speaks of the grieving that went on when the Provo Tabernacle caught fire.

Out of the ashes has come a new and greater purpose for that edifice, and it serves as a symbol of the new and greater purposes revealed for each of our lives as the Lord makes His will manifest in our lives.

The passage:

The talk:

The General Relief Society Meeting (in it's entirety)

Welcome To The Widowed Connection

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